Earlier this week I read a newspaper article that claimed that sexually transmitted diseases were rapidly increasing among 15 to 19 year olds in our area.  The article went on to proclaim that “abstinence-only sex education in schools” clearly wasn’t working. 

I lowered the paper and sat at my kitchen table, speechless.  The logic of some people just astounds me.  Kids in school generally get one unit of sex education, and they only spend a few days talking about birth control.  The message of abstinence is an important one, because only kids who abstain from sex before marriage and then remain true to one partner are NOT at risk for STDs.  This message does need to be shouted from the mountaintops. 
But you know what?  Condoms aren’t completely foolproof.  The HIV virus can slip through a condom.  Birth control pills don’t prevent STDs at all.  So how is birth control education going to stem the tide of sexually transmitted diseases? 
What no one is mentioning is the veritable FLOOD of sexual images being sent to our kids through music, movies, and television.  Our culture is saturated with sexual messages.  And it doesn’t all come from outside the home. So many of our kids are living with parents who think nothing of shacking up with someone to whom they’re not married . . . and single moms and dads think nothing of having their dates sleep over.  
How is the abstinence message supposed to counter all that?  It can’t.  No way. 
What does make a difference?  Moms and dads who walk what they talk, parents who take their kids to church where teachers explain that our bodies are created in the image of God and are not to be treated with disrespect–by ourselves or by anyone else.  Men and women who live morally upright lives and show by example that true love is committed and faithful and joy-filled.  That sex in marriage is part of a beautiful and God-honoring relationship.  
We can’t expect our kids to be profoundly changed after only a few hours of a sex education class–not when the culture negates everything they might hear in that class.  Time to wake up and smell the coffee.  


  1. Terri L. Gillespie

    Isn’t it amazing how intelligent, normally rational people can’t do the math? The king is walking naked and no one is listening to the crowds pointing this out.

    That’s my cliches for today.

    Very sad.

  2. Mocha with Linda

    Amen. And our culture continues to spiral downward. I blogged yesterday about a Toronto-based website that is heavily advertising in Texas (and elsewhere, I imagine). An infidelity website. Similar to dating services, only this one for married folks. Among it’s taglines are “Life is short. Have an affair.” and “When Divorce is not an option.” Already has 3 million users. Sad times we live in.

  3. Anonymous

    This is yet another reason I am happy I moved across the country to live across the street from my granddaughters. With bombardments such as we do see every day, both the 6-yr-old and the 14-yr-old need all the reinforcement I (along with their parents) can offer. BTW, I live in Texas and have not seen that dating website. (Maybe they don’t advertise on FoxNews or Hallmark!) Shocking and repulsive that it can be shown on any channel! Clyde

  4. LuAnn

    Yes, parents are the key. Unfortunately, there are parents who aren’t comfortable taking to their children about sex and the consequences. On the positive side, I think it’s gotten better. My parents weren’t as open about it as I was with my children. However, I wonder how accurate the newer parents are when discussing it with their children — especially those who have mistaken information, especially when it comes to STDs.

  5. Tim and Vicky

    Strongly with you on this. The media is once again plying an agenda against . . . well, what it right.

  6. Julie Carobini

    Pam Stenzel is a GREAT speaker on this topic. My husband, our kids and I have watched her DVD “Sex has a Price Tag” several times over the years. She’s entertaining, relevant and breathtakingly direct. I recommend it to families with teens.

  7. Andrea

    Check out the article that Vicki quotes in her 2/19 post. I think you’ll find the last line quite ironic…..

  8. Amy

    I did hear on the news the other day that they done a study that showed that sex on TV was causing kids to have sex. They have the information, they just don’t want to give up their own pleasures.


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